Relational Infrastructure

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Relational Infrastructure is the foundational tools, systems, and frameworks that enable and support strong, and effective relationships. Just as we use roads and bridges to connect our cities, we need thoughtfully designed spaces, tools, and ways of coming together that help us form genuine relationships. These spaces and tools will work for all of us, no matter who we are or what stage of life we're in, and will be built around what humans actually need and not just what's most efficient. It's about creating the foundation that helps us truly connect, share our stories, and build lasting bonds with the people around us.

Social Products

Tier 2: Individual Social Management

Goal Surfer

Simplify goal setting and tracking

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Relationship Audit Template

Objectively evaluate relationships

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Tier 3: Social Schema and Instructions

Social Interaction Tier List

Rank social interaction skills

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Social Activity Ideas

Find social activities ideas

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Learn more about Tier 2 and Tier 3 social products from our blog post.

Recent Blog Posts

Opportunity Maximization Is A Driver For Happiness

February 16, 2025

Five years ago when I was 23 I bought a Tesla using a traditional auto loan. I had a great paying job, great prospects and I could afford the payments. After learning more about money, and how debt steals my future (thanks Ramsey Solutions), I realized what paying for a Tesla at 23 was doing: […]

Do It

February 16, 2025

Please do it, we’re all counting on you. I believe in you to do it. Picture and general vibe from @levelsio on X.

Events Are Key to Building Friend Groups

January 29, 2025

In hindsight this realization is obvious: events are a catalyst for forming friend groups. When I look back at times when it was easy to create a friend group, there’s a clear pattern: it’s all about events. Making friends as a kid was effortless because school forced us into social situations. But as adults, where […]

Noah Kahan – The View Between Villages (Extended)

January 17, 2025

[Verse 1]Air in my lungs ’til the road beginsAs the last of the bugs leave their homes againAnd I’m splittin’ the road down the middleFor a minute, the world seemed so simple [Verse 2]Feel the rush of my blood, I’m seventeen againI am not scared of death, I’ve got dreams againIt’s just me and the […]

The People And Places Already Exist

December 22, 2024

With few exceptions, all of the places and the people you’ll interact with in the next five years already exist. That means there are relationships that have not yet started, paths that have not yet crossed, and stories that have not yet unfolded. These connections are waiting, like seeds, ready to grow when the right […]

Attention Is All You Have

October 29, 2024

Our attention isn’t just something we pay, it’s all we truly have to give to one another. In an age where digital systems constantly compete for our focus, our attention has become both increasingly valuable and increasingly fragmented. The irony doesn’t escape me. While we’re building machines that can process thousands of connections simultaneously, we’re […]

Joy Conditioning

October 28, 2024

Commonly we think of joy coming from big moments: graduations, promotions, weddings, vacations. We are conditioned to believe that happiness requires grand gestures or significant achievements. We save our happiness for the weekend, for after we get the promotion, for when we finally move into that bigger house. We’ve created “joy checkpoints”, designated moments when […]

People Want to Be Heard

October 27, 2024

People want to be good: But there is a serious disconnect with the tools and infrastructure given to people to grow their relationships. We build highways to connect cities, yet struggle with developing deep and true relationships. When people feel heard, they feel valued. It’s that simple, yet that profound. In our rush to solve […]

Growth Is In The Spring

October 26, 2024

I’ve lived in Michigan my entire life, where the rhythm of seasons isn’t just a change in weather, it is a fundamental truth about how things work. Each year is predictable here: winter drags until it doesn’t, spring shows up eventually, summer arrives right when we need it, and fall eases us back into the […]

The Fun People Are In The Middle Seat

October 25, 2024

From my experience there is a strong correlation between people who sit in the middle seats on airplanes and how interesting they are. You can even add in an extra dimension of time in seat and how necessary the route is. For example, people who fly on the middle seat to Hawaii from the lower […]

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