Relational Infrastructure

The routines we have in our lives, for better or for worse, dictate how we think of the world. When we have too many commitments the routines we create tend to favor convenience instead of what is actually best. I think this is natural since overtime we start to optimize the routine and learn new […]

I recently read in Reclaiming Relationship in a Technological World by Andy Crouch that during your birth and death you want to be around and connect with people you know in trust. During your birth this is your mother and you are looking for her care, and eye contact. During your final moments, if you’re […]

I’ve recently noticed during in-person conversations with other people the need for facts to be validated by something other than other people in the group. When I say a fact I have to resist the urge to find if what I’m saying is still valid or not from Wikipedia, a search, or whatever other place […]

Do you have too many friends? Are you too social? Do you wish you’d be able to spend less meaningful time with people? Here are some things you can do to avoid humans: If you apply all of these techniques, you’ll be sure to have all humans avoid you and you’ll finally be at peace.

Social media has shifted our memories and relationships into a series of announcements. Every time I go on social media I’m often reminded how many people are getting married, having kids, and other, seemingly endless, life events. Conversations about old friends are boiled down to “I seen on Facebook that they…”, instead of through the […]

Five years ago when I was 23 I bought a Tesla using a traditional auto loan. I had a great paying job, great prospects and I could afford the payments. After learning more about money, and how debt steals my future (thanks Ramsey Solutions), I realized what paying for a Tesla at 23 was doing: […]

Please do it, we’re all counting on you. I believe in you to do it. Picture and general vibe from @levelsio on X.

In hindsight this realization is obvious: events are a catalyst for forming friend groups. When I look back at times when it was easy to create a friend group, there’s a clear pattern: it’s all about events. Making friends as a kid was effortless because school forced us into social situations. But as adults, where […]

[Verse 1]Air in my lungs ’til the road beginsAs the last of the bugs leave their homes againAnd I’m splittin’ the road down the middleFor a minute, the world seemed so simple [Verse 2]Feel the rush of my blood, I’m seventeen againI am not scared of death, I’ve got dreams againIt’s just me and the […]