Relational Infrastructure

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Writing on relationships, community building, and the everyday infrastructure of a more connected life.

Emotional Regulation Through Packet Dropping

October 24, 2024

In computer networking information is transferred primarily through packets. These packets, standardized since the 1980s, contain key data such as the destination and travel across networks of routers, switches, and computers to reach their intended destination. Networks have built-in redundancies,...

Anti-Human Systems

October 23, 2024

Around us are anti-human systems that were put in place with good intentions but often work against humans. They can make individuals feel like they did something wrong or blame themselves when things go wrong. Examples of these systems include:

From A Digital World Back To Analog

October 22, 2024

When I was a kid my parents had cable TV that came from the wall and hooked directly into the TV through a copper wire. Sometime between 2008-2010 we had to "upgrade" to digital cable which required getting a cable box with a new remote for every TV in the house. We'd no longer get analog TV (cable...

Three Tiers of Social Products

September 3, 2024

We've developed numerous ways to connect with others online. However, there's a noticeable gap in the tools available for fostering meaningful connections. I am proposing a three-tiered framework for understanding and developing social products, with a focus on the underdeveloped Tier 2 and Tier 3 c...

Socializing Potential Energy

July 9, 2024

In physics there are two main types of energy potential and kinetic. Potential energy is energy that is stored and can be released at anytime, usually due to gravity. Kinetic energy is energy that is in motion.

Passing Friends

June 14, 2024

Recently I had a 3 hour flight to Dallas to see the Eclipse and opted for a randomly assigned seat. For the first 2 and 1/2 hours the person next to me and I didn't speak. About 30 minutes left of the flight she had asked me a question and we got to talking. She was flying down to Dallas for her sis...